How to control and manage your emotions effectively?

Have you ever spent your quality time thinking about how your emotion affects your overall well-being? Some of us get irritated very quickly the moment we’re stuck in a traffic congestion. At times, we argue with the waiter for issues that shouldn’t be an issue. We get angry so fast when someone have a differing opinion on politics than us.

When our world was moving forward before the pandemic of Covid-19, I have noticed so many people’s emotions change with the happening around them on a daily basis. Standing in a que at the cash deposit machine in the bank gets them frustrated when the que time is more than 5 minutes. Sitting at a table in a restaurant waiting to order, when another person just walks in and his or her order was taken first, they jump at the waiter. A compliment gets them high and floating, instantaneously.

We should have full control of our emotions and not let outside happenings decide. Of course, it is easier said than done. The truth is we have a choice. The question is, do you want the happening around us decide our emotions or not? Every one of us have emotions that we can manage better and there are emotions that goes out of control. So, how can we control and manage our emotions effectively? There are 5 simple steps to follow but before we get to the 5 steps, sit down for a few minutes and think about your emotions. Times when you lost it, the times when you can control it and when you felt so good or so bad.

As humans, our emotions will naturally hijack and dictate our thoughts most of the time. Managing emotions is a skill which we need to build up. This change in yourself is needed even though as human, we struggle to change.

Mindset

We must have a growth mindset that we want to control and manage our emotions. Events which happens around us is not in our control, we must let this sink into our minds. Reaction to the events will affect our emotions. The next time you are going to the bank, set your mind that you will be there for 30 minutes to one hour. This will keep help you to be prepared when you have to que. If you complete the task earlier, it will give us a feeling of ease with positive emotions.

Know Yourself

Be aware of how your feelings come. It is our thoughts that gives signal to create an emotion. When you let your emotions grow stronger, its controls you and changes your thoughts. Once you understand this, you can monitor how your thoughts affect your emotions. Think about the times when you were overly emotional or overreacted. If you are more aware of your emotions, it will be possible to manage it.

Ask Questions

Always ask yourself question about your emotions. We have the best computer in the world built-in us but we always try to find answers outside. Ask questions like; “Why am I angry? What is making me angry? Can I change the event?”. Your mind will start to look for answers. Do I want to be respected? Is it my ego? Give it a try and you can see the wonders of life.

What is the Solution?

Once you know the reasons for the what, why, when, you can manage the way you think. The way you think could be the solution for your emotions. Start looking for other ways to handle how you react to the situation. Remember, the more you focus on your feelings, it expands. Focus on the positive thoughts and it expands to make your emotions better.

Decide how you will feel

Wake up in the morning with feelings of grateful for being given another day to live. Tell yourself every day that, “it’s going to be a wonderful day today” and see how it improves your thoughts and emotions. Starting the day with the right thought sets the motion for a positive day.

Now that we are locked down due to Covid 19, people are willing to accept the new norm of life where you have to que for a longer time for most of the places like banks, groceries, markets. Lesser people are irritated easily at ques compared to before the pandemic. If you can see it, it is actually your thoughts that accepted the queuing time which makes you less emotional.